THE MEMBER EXPERIENCE

More ways to find the right dynamic.

Discover compatible UK adults, start conversations at your own pace and choose the membership tools that fit how you want to connect.

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FREE TO JOIN ADULTS ONLY PRIVATE MEMBER AREA

FROM PROFILE TO CONVERSATION

Find, connect and build trust.

Use the parts of the platform that help you explore with more clarity, whether you are browsing quietly or ready to be more visible.

Discover compatible members

Browse profiles and read how members describe their roles, interests and relationship intentions before you decide who is worth a message.

Say what you want up front

Put your role, the dynamic you want and your hard limits on your profile, so the right people can tell at a glance whether you're their kind of trouble.

Start private conversations

Move from an introduction to a real conversation with messaging options that expand across the membership tiers.

Take part in the community

Share updates and photos, comment on posts and join polls or quizzes when you want more ways to be seen.

Look for trust signals

A Verified badge indicates that a member has completed ID verification. It isn't a guarantee of authenticity or behaviour.

Increase your visibility

VIP+ visibility tools can place your profile and messages more prominently when you want to make the first move.

MEMBERSHIP OPTIONS

Choose how you want to explore.

Start with a free profile, then add more conversation or visibility tools if they suit the way you want to meet people.

FREE MEMBERSHIP

Classic

Free to join: create a profile, explore the community and see who catches your eye before you decide whether to upgrade.

Build your profile and browse members
Post updates, photos and community replies

MORE WAYS TO CONNECT

VIP

Remove messaging limits and use stronger discovery and conversation tools when you are ready to do more.

Everything available with Classic
Send unlimited messages
Use advanced search filters
Access chat rooms and private groups
Rewind without limits and see who likes you

MAXIMUM VISIBILITY

VIP+

Add priority and visibility advantages designed to help the right people notice your profile sooner.

Everything available with VIP
Receive priority message and like placement
Use boosted profile visibility

FEATURE COMPARISON

See what each membership includes.

Every tier includes a profile and ways to discover members. Messaging access depends on your membership level, and upgrades expand communication and visibility. The member platform sets the exact features and limits, which can change.

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Comparison of Classic, VIP and VIP+ membership features
Feature	Classic	VIP	VIP+
Core experience
Create a free account and profile	Included	Included	Included
Browse member profiles	Included	Included	Included
Post updates and photos	Included	Included	Included
Comment on articles and member posts	Included	Included	Included
Participate in polls and quizzes	Included	Included	Included
Earn activity badges such as Chatterbox, Heartthrob and Most Popular	Included	Included	Included
Communication
Unlimited messaging	Not included	Included	Included
VIP chat rooms	Not included	Included	Included
Private group chats	Not included	Included	Included
Discovery
Advanced search filters	Not included	Included	Included
Unlimited rewinds	Not included	Included	Included
See everyone who likes you	Not included	Included	Included
Visibility
Priority comment placement	Not included	Included	Included
Priority message and like placement	Not included	Not included	Included
Boosted profile visibility	Not included	Not included	Included

Core experience

Create a free account and profile

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Browse member profiles

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Post updates and photos

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Comment on articles and member posts

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Participate in polls and quizzes

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Earn activity badges such as Chatterbox, Heartthrob and Most Popular

Classic: Included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Communication

Unlimited messaging

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

VIP chat rooms

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Private group chats

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Discovery

Advanced search filters

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Unlimited rewinds

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

See everyone who likes you

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Visibility

Priority comment placement

Classic: Not included
VIP: Included
VIP+: Included

Priority message and like placement

Classic: Not included
VIP: Not included
VIP+: Included

Boosted profile visibility

Classic: Not included
VIP: Not included
VIP+: Included

YOUR PROFILE

Let your profile do the flirting.

Nobody can read your mind from a photo. A profile that says plainly what you want is what gets you noticed, so cover these.

Your role, or both sides if you switch
The dynamic you want, and what you would enjoy within it
Whether you are after a date, something casual or something serious
What is firmly off the table
Roughly where you are, without the postcode
A few things you are into outside the bedroom

PAID EXTRA

Make an introduction with Super Match.

A Super Match gives your message a distinctive presentation and prominent inbox position, helping your introduction stand apart. The recipient can reply directly to open a conversation.

Availability and price depend on your membership; check the member area for current details.

SAFETY & TRUST

More context before you connect.

A Verified badge indicates that a member has completed ID verification. It isn't a guarantee of authenticity or behaviour. Keep using your own checks before you meet.

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EXPLORE BY INTENT

Start with the connection you want to explore.

Membership tools are only part of the decision. Choose a guide that reflects the dynamic or kind of connection you want to understand first.

BROAD GUIDE

BDSM Dating UK

Start with the broad guide to discreet, role-aware kink dating across the UK.

Explore guide

BY ROLE

Dominant Dating

Explore confident connection shaped by clarity, mutual fit and consent.

Explore guide

BY ROLE

Submissive Dating

Find respectful matches where boundaries, pace and trust stay visible.

Explore guide

YOUR NEXT STEP

Start with a free profile.

Explore the member area first, then decide whether Classic, VIP or VIP+ fits the way you want to connect.

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